Love and Honesty

In a relationship, any relationship, complete honesty is always needed. In fact, honesty should be part of the relationship’s foundation. The principle behind it is that basically, no one likes being lied to, and if a relationship is to flourish, it should not be peppered with lies.

Lying with words is simple enough to pull off but easy enough to detect. No matter how smooth and suave the lie has been delivered, we all have an innate sense of knowing that we were lied to. Just feeling that we have been deceived already hurts, regardless of whether it was done deliberately or not.

But there is another form of lying that is more dangerous than lying with words. It is called emotional dishonesty. There are times that you like the guy so much that you would do anything to keep him with you. You would change your manner of speaking, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair, your personal routine, everything about you, just to please him. In effect, you are lying to yourself by not staying true to your own identity, and you are lying to him as well for showing him a different person than who you really are.

In the end, the truth shall come out. You are not only in danger of losing him when the truth behind the lies is finally revealed, but you would also lose yourself in the process. Losing yourself is one of the worst possible outcomes in the end of a relationship; sometimes, it is hard to regain the sense of who you truly are.